Thoughts on being a Victim
This is in response to a person asking about how to overcome victim hood, and was receiving some very insensitive feedback. I see a lot of insensitive and myopic remarks in this thread, so don't take any of it personally. Instead, filter it from the perspective of "What might help me here and what should I ignore?" For example, to be told that you attracted whatever circumstance that allowed you to become a victim, is often an exercise of the teller's ego, and has a useless element of smugness. It's another way of saying "you deserve to suffer because you didn't do things my way,(or how I'd have handled the situation if I were you)." Blaming the victim for being a victim sucks! A victim needs support, not judgment. When you hear someone talk about another person "playing the victim," it represents negative judgment, whether deserved or not. Some people do assume the role of victim in order to emotionally blackmail othe...